With my big respect for different cultures and religions. something here not ok...correct me if I'm not right

Culture shock is a common experience for many people, especially in today’s diverse society. As someone who has always respected and embraced different religions and cultures, I never thought I would experience culture shock in my own backyard. However, that all changed for me today when my daughter and I encountered a shocking and unpleasant situation.

My daughter attends an international school in Malaysia. She is a talented soccer player and has always been passionate about the sport. So, when she had a game today, she was thrilled to be playing on the boys’ team.

After the game, my daughter extended her hand to shake hands with the opposing team, as a gesture of good sportsmanship. However, to our surprise, several boys from the opposing team jumped back with disgust on their faces, shouting their excuse to our coach, “Hey, I’m Muslim.”

I was taken aback by this behavior, and to be honest, it left a sour taste in my mouth. As a professional athlete. I have always believed that respect is the foundation of any sport. It doesn’t matter who your opponent is or what their background may be; respect should always be present.

But what I witnessed today was a complete lack of sportsmanship and respect. These boys used their religion as an excuse to avoid a simple gesture of shaking hands. This is not about religion; it’s about respect. It’s about understanding that in sports, there is no room for discrimination or excuses.

If it was truly important for these boys not to shake hands or touch the opposite sex, then why did they not refuse to play against a team with a girl from the start? Throughout the game, how many times did they push or were pushed by my daughter? Is that not considered physical contact with the opposite sex?

I firmly believe that there are countless ways to show respect towards your opponent. It could be a nod of the head or any other simple gesture. It’s not a complicated concept, and yet, these boys failed to show even the slightest bit of respect, not just for their opponent but also for their own religion.

This is not just a cultural issue; it’s about basic human decency. As a mother, I teach my daughter to respect all religions and cultures, and I expect the same from others. I am deeply disappointed by the behavior of these boys, and I hope that they will learn from this experience and understand the importance of respect in sports and in life.

In the end, what happened today was not just a culture shock for me, but it was a shock to my beliefs about respect and sportsmanship. I hope that as a society, we can continue to celebrate diversity and promote respect, both on and off the field. Let us all remember that in the game of life, respect is always the winning strategy.

Thanks to those who explained the situation to me in detail. I really appreciate it. Yes, this is the first time we've encountered this situation. And it's really more about the wrong attitudes, on one hand, and on the other, as someone rightly said. Perhaps it was something new for the boys too, and that's why they reacted that way. It's just that when the boy say that it because he Muslim, that's when I start asked myself ....

I think it was right to make a post to sort it out and understand.

For those who immediately attacked me with the words “Islamophobe,” I have nothing much to say here. No, I’m not Islamophobic. It’s you, with your aggression, who are creating Islamophobia in people without offering any explanation.

And no, I’m not that kind of visitor who arrives in a foreign country and feels they self like at home without respect people culture and religious. I know perfectly well what you’re talking about. Every country has this problem. And I don’t like people with such attitudes either.

I made this post to understand a situation I’ve never encountered before. No one is obligated to delve deeply into a religion they don’t belong to. But I believe the points I described need to be discussed for proper understanding.

Thank.

I would say showing a disgusted face and scoffing is definitely less respectful coming from the Muslim side, a more appropriate rejection would be smilling and putting hands on the chest to gesture a reciprocal respect.

this should’ve been a social etiquette lesson for these kids. If u can’t shake hands of opposite gender, then u can respond respectfully in other ways.

Take Izzuddin (National Men Doubles Badminton Player) for example, he has no issues being respectful to female umpires without shaking their hands. He put in the effort to be equally respectful, unlike these kids that had no etiquette at all.

when I was in secondary school., one of the religious teachers taught the students non-muslims were ‘haram’. So, whenever they accidentally touched me, either sexes would recoil and say: batal air sembahyang and quickly go wash up and pray again. LOLOLOL. so glad I left all that shit behind

First of all people can show respect without shaking hands. The boys could just move their hand to chest with slight nod saying sorry, we’re not allowed to touch intentionally or something like that. It might be a culture shock for them as well.

Hey man. Malaysian Non-Muslim here. I know exactly the feeling myself having been in that situation many times.

The reactions from the boys is strange. So i am not sure who is educating them. That is not how they should react. Hopefully they get corrected. You can decline politely.

All that being said, they are young kids, so I would give them some slack…kids over react or not know how to react sometimes. Especially RE opposite genders. We all had this phase where it was ‘ewwww girls / ewwww boys’ back in the days.

Just tell your daughter not to take it personally.

Common thing in this country sadly. I’ve had friends in school that went from closely playing together a year before to avoiding touching me the next year despite being the same gender saying ‘cina haram’ after being brainwashed by their parents/religion.

It’s the adults fault. Kids knows no racism until they’re taught so.

If you’re not comfortable shaking hands, just put your right hand on your heart. That’s the proper thing to do and it’s common. Kids learn behavior from their parents; over time they will hopefully do better.

Don’t get me wrong, the boys reaction was uncalled for(no need for disgusted face), but at the same time, as a muslim myself, I would not shake hands still and just a simple bow and smile. Thats usually the interaction I do with non muslim girls I am friends with and talk to. If you disagree thats fine but no matter what you wont see muslim men here shake hands with girls regardless of anything.

Lol, u ain’t seen nothing yet. Wait till PAS takes over.

Keep in mind that children learn from what they see and have been told, mostly at home.

So most likely their behavior stems from social/parenting.

If they don’t judge everything by their religion standard, this wouldn’t have been a problem innit? Anyway, U ain’t seen nothin yet.

This is not about religion

That’s where you are wrong

There’s alot of racist Malaysian just that they don’t show it overtly but seems like recently this trend is changing for the worse as well

you should not teach your kids to respect all religions and culture. however, you should teach them that respect is earned and should be reciprocated.

obviously dont make mountains out of molehills, but if the other side does not respect you, you are not obliged to respect them. respecting hostility and intolerance is a fool’s errand.